Parents & Kids - Some Good Info

One of the biggest illusions of parenting that I have found is that many parents want their kids to just be little mini-me's and parents can often times impose their will too heavily on their children.  To continue that thought, some parents dont allow their child to truly blossom into the kind of person their children wants to grow up to be because they keep thinking that their child should just be little extensions of whom they are.  It is so important for a parent to guide and provide an example for their child; it is the overpowering and not acknowledging their own identity that is not healthy.

This is more so about the parents' issues than anything else.  Before becoming a parent, Dr. Tsabari of The Conscious Parent states that new want-to-be-parents need to remember that they need to deal with any of their own outstanding childhood issues, traumas and hang-ups before they have their own children, otherwise you're simply transferring your issues over to your kid(s) and trying to get them to be whom you are.

As a teacher, I can see first-hand everyday how kids can try to talk to their parents about issues and things that are bothering them because YES, children WILL look to their parents for advice, guidance, help and a sound head.  If you're not listening to them and just imposing what you want, how can you expect to have happy and fulfilled children as they are growing?  Dont we want to get desirable, authentic, long-lasting results, not to mention the respect of your child for allowing them to be their authentic selves??